Negative people can affect even the most positive people and cause them to have negative thoughts. Negative thoughts can not only be unproductive, but they can drain you emotionally, especially if you’re constantly encountering them throughout the day.
The reality is that many people love negativity and almost feed off it. They just simply don’t feel rested until they are complaining or griping about something, or someone.
If you feel like this is describing you, or someone you know, try these tips to help reduce those negative thoughts and think in a more positive light.
You might find that your life ends up taking on a more positive outcome.
1. Change your Language
Try to avoid using words like “never” and “always” for a day. Instead of saying you never do that right, say that you've struggled with that in the past, but you will do what you can to change that from now on. Quite often using words like “never” and “always” can be destructive as this is usually not the case. Think about it.
2. Expand your language
Utilise more positive words in your vocabulary. If someone asks “how are you?” rather than answering “ok”, respond with “AWESOME”, “FANTASTIC”, “NEVER FELT BETTER” or if you want to be cheesy / cringey say something like “FILLED with LOVE!”. If you find it a struggle to come up with emotive words, just think of the feeling suggestions on Facebook. Here’s a few examples:
To name a few…
3. Take Action
A lot of negativity that is born from a person’s mouth is a direct result of their own negative thoughts. If you’re habitually thinking negatively about someone or an annoying situation you find yourself in, then the first words from your mouth will probably be negative.
Instead, take action and do something to change those negative thoughts instead of letting them simmer in your mind. Although it may feel good to talk out your frustrations, recounting all the negative experiences you've gone through, to as many people as possible, this is damaging for both you and the people around you. You are simply reinforcing in your mind all the things that are frustrating you, only making it harder to deal with them. This leads to a build-up in your mind of many negative experiences, which can sometimes end up in feelings of depression.
Complete that project or go and talk to the person who is causing you to have negative thoughts. This will lead to an immediate feeling of release and you will be able to rest and relax your mind more easily.
4. Avoid Gossip
This could potentially be the most difficult one to implement as it is human nature to get juicy details on someone when they aren't there. All that leads to is negative thoughts about that person, or people in general, which isn't good for anyone. This can also lead to a pattern of negative thinking which can be very hard to break!
The next time you are with your friends, family or even your partner, declare it a “gossip-free day” and see what else can be talked about.
As the great philosopher Socrates said:
“Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people”
5. Do things that Make You Happy
It kind of goes without saying that if you aren't happy, then you will naturally think negatively. Instead, do things you love doing, like your partner ;)
If you haven’t got a partner, go play golf, ride a bike or go bowling with your friends. Whatever it is that takes you to your inner happy place. Simply doing this can reduce the negative energy you might be giving off and get some positive thinking going through your body and mind.
6. Random Acts of Kindness
If you’re having one of those days where nothing is going right and you just want to get away from the world, try and brighten someone else’s day. It doesn't have to be someone you know.
These random acts of kindness can be as simple as holding the door open for someone, helping someone get their heavy luggage onto the train, or even paying for someone’s coffee without them knowing. You might not think it now, but you will feel a lot better when you know you made someone else’s day just that little bit better.
Oh and for the record, I love the expression “Do one good deed a day” but don’t stop there! Keep doing as many as you want! You will feel better for it.
7. Write Down Negative Thoughts
This one could really surprise you. Every time you are sitting at home or at work, and you have a negative thought, make a conscious effort to write it down. Then at the end of the day, go back to your list and see if you can rephrase them into positive sentences. E.g. “Why is my boss always giving me a hard time?” can turn into “I’m glad I have a boss that cares about me enough to get the best out of me”.
If you’re a naturally negative thinker, then the list may actually be too long to go through, or you may not realise that you’re thinking negatively because it is natural to you. Practice doing this for a week and you will realise how often negative thoughts are plaguing your mind, throughout the day.
8. Don’t Take Things Personally
When you are practising being more positive, you will become more aware of the negative people in your life and the people around you. Any time you hear someone speaking in a negative tone to you, or to someone else, just smile and be grateful that it is not you and that you are no longer like that anymore. Smiling and making light of negative situations will make you feel much better and put up a barrier that will not allow negativity to enter your mind.
Gauge the situation for yourself, but adding a little humour, into a situation where negativity is present, can distinguish the fire of negativity in almost an instant. This can be effective on your own negativity or the other persons. All it does is break the pattern of negative thinking.
It is also very easy to assume that if someone near you is talking in a negative way, they are talking negatively about you, especially if they are directing their body language towards you. But remember, 98% of the time this is not the case. If they do start directing their negativity towards you, smile, listen, try and understand what the other person is going through and respond with “I understand” coupled with a gentle nod.
It’s human nature to be negative at times. You can’t always be positive. If you are, you may find you are over compensating for something else. Either way, the most successful people in the world are able to conquer negativity in an instant. They are well practiced in it.
Nothing good can come out of being perpetually negative, so why waste your energy on it? Come to the realisation that you can have and think negative thoughts, but you can turn them very easily into positives.
Once you are able to do that, you will be well on your way to leading a more happy and successful career and personal life.
As a photographer, it’s even easier to see the positive people, from the negative ones. Positive folk tend to give off almost a glow of natural positive light. It’s amazing to observe. Personally I try and stay as positive as possible, which helps hugely in my work, allowing my clients and I to operate in a positive environment.
My aim is to spread as much positivity in the world and make the world a better place to live in, one step at a time.
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